Strength and Softness: Reframing Vulnerability and Strength for Black Men
- Dr. Sharon H. Beatty
- 3 days ago
- 2 min read
Editor’s Note:
This piece is an ongoing series centered on Black men, health, and mental wellness-not because Black men are broken, but because they been carrying far too much for far too long.
The Rose of Sharon Counseling Services Dr. Sharon Hazel Beatty, PhD, LPC (SC), LCMHC
Black men are often praised for their strength, resilience, and perseverance—yet rarely given permission to rest, feel, or be vulnerable. For many Black men, masculinity has been shaped by survival. Emotional restraint was not simply taught; it was necessary. In environments where vulnerability could be misunderstood or punished, strength became synonymous with silence. However, being strong does not have to mean being silent forever. Strength without softness eventually becomes heavy.
Vulnerability:
Vulnerability is not weakness. It is honesty. It is emotional intelligence. It is allowing yourself to be fully human in spaces that have historically demanded composure over authenticity. When emotions are suppressed, they do not disappear—they often resurface as chronic stress, burnout, anger, or emotional disconnection. Survival may have kept you going, but survival does not have to keep leading.
Redefining Strength:
True strength isn’t about enduring everything silently. It is about knowing when to pause, reflect, and seek support. Healthy masculinity allows room for reflection, emotional expression, and support without compromising responsibility or strength. Black men deserve more than recognition for their resilience. They deserve care for their humanity. They deserve spaces where they don’t have to perform toughness, where they can be fully human, emotionally present, and seen beyond stereotypes.
An Invitation:
You don’t have to choose between being strong and being whole.
You can be both
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